How We BE is part of our Whole

identity Aug 16, 2021

 This is a written summary of my latest video, for those that prefer to read than watch.  If you’d prefer to watch, you can find the video here.


How do you BE in this world?  Do you show up as who you really are, or do you change how you behave based on who you’re with or who is watching?

A few weeks ago, I shared a video that included that safety announcement you hear on planes.  You know the one:  “In the unlikely event that the oxygen masks should fall from the ceiling….”  The point I was making was that we have to take care of ourselves first, BEFORE we take care of others.  Otherwise, we don’t have the energy -- the overflow -- we need to care for those others.  But, today, it made me think of our current pandemic reality.  There appears to be so much division about the vaccine but also about masks.  To wear a mask or not to wear a mask.  Now, please hear me.  I am NOT making a statement about wearing masks.  Instead, I’m asking a question that only YOU can answer.

What mask are you wearing today?  Is it the “good girl” mask?  What about the “overachiever” mask?  Or, the “superwoman” mask, you know, the one who says you can have it all.  Then there are the masks we show to others, but we really use them for ourselves, like the “everything is ok” mask you wear when you really just want to scream about how things are NOT okay.  Your relationship’s on the rocks or you need more money or you’re in the middle of a health crisis.

What if you took off that figurative mask, just for today, and let yourself and the world see who you really are?  What’s the worst that could happen?  Maybe a friend or two won’t like what they see.  Maybe YOU won’t like what you see.  But...what if you love what you see?  What if you can love and accept yourself, exactly as you are without that mask?  What if removing that mask helps you glimpse the vision for a new mission in your life.  Maybe, just maybe, you’ll be comfortable enough to try being in this world just as you are without a mask again tomorrow.  And, of course, if you don’t like BEing without a mask, you always have the option to put that mask back on.  The thing is, you won’t know until you try.

The more we show up in this world exactly as we are, the sooner we will surround ourselves with others who love and appreciate us for who we really are, and the faster we can start living that magical life we want so much.  The sooner we realize that we are all holy, wholly complete.

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